Hi
cp85rn,
to Sober Recovery.
how can he just go on like nothing is happening? I just don't get it? He knows I'm not stupid...
He can go on like nothing is happening because to him, nothing is happening. It's nothing to do with whether or not you are stupid, or whether or not he KNOWS your not stupid.
When a person is an alcoholic, their thinking and their thought processes are not normal. And the way they relate to others is not normal. Trying to have a normal relationship with an active alcoholic is like trying to have a relationship with a potato: The potato just doesn't get it. And likely never will.
Do you know the Three C's?
You did not cause it. You cannot cure it. And you cannot control it.
Dumping the alcohol out does nothing. That is just one way we attempt to control it.
(((hugs))) keep reading and posting here.