My detachment was simple.....I think almost TOO simple. I feel like I'm no where near my own recovery BECAUSE it was TOO simple.
My A is my son. He came back home to live with us after his DUI. We had no idea of the extent of his drinking until we lived it with him. It took me a month to realize this was not a simple issue of a person self-medicating to beat depression... I made excuses and I denied to myself what was going on. Then we started cleaning after him. Then he started fights which interrupted my job (I work at home, a full time job). Then he (back to square one) attempted to drive to work loaded again. That was it. I told him to leave and go back to his own apartment. You see, he's just at the tip of the rollercoaster that is alcoholism. He's got a long way to fall yet. I have "successfully" ignored him since he left a month ago. I don't know what he's drinking, when he's drinking or what he's up to. That's my detachment.
Come April 1st, his lease is up on his apartment and his roommate wants nothing more to do with him. Hopefully he'll still have his job then, but as to where he is going to live and be able to keep up bills is beyond me. He is not welcome back here. I think April 1st is going to force BOTH of us to work on recovery a little more.