Originally Posted by
hurtandangry 
my intervention for my wife was done with a restraining order and divorce papers.
sounds familiar.
And initially it didn't work. After about 6 months, she finally decided to earnestly work on her problem. She says she would have done it without the intervention and divorce papers....Quack, Quack, Quack.
I'd say YOU have nothing to loose by trying it. No intervention, probably no change in behavior. With intervention, you MIGHT see a change in behavior. There is no way to know.
What do YOU have to loose by trying? What might you gain if it takes?