Originally Posted by
dogluvah 
Buttercream, I don't mean to offend you in any way, and I hope I haven't.
Oh, I'm not offended at all! I see a lot of myself in what you are saying because I have been there. I would venture to say that most of us have tried to convince ourselves that someone "isn't THAT bad" (thats what we do best!), and in the beginning, overlooked the red flags. I wish I had heeded mine.
You've obviously got some red flags going up yourself or you wouldn't be here.