Thanks for this thread. Reality also has a lot to do with living in the present moment. I am getting better at that and I am so grateful. In my case, I lived in the past. Now I am finding my mind in the present 80% of the time or 20% in the future. It is way better than suffering for past events. Today I am alive and I can navigate my day with peace, patience with myself, and see what is in my hands to feel better in spirit, body & mind. Priceless gift.