I would explore every option available to remove yourself and 2 kids from the house or have your AW go somewhere if possible. This is a very unhealthy environment for you and especially the kids. When you are living with an active A you cannot think clearly. When my STBXAW went to inpatient treatment I was finally able to really comprehend what was going on. It took 2 weeks just for the fog to lift in my head. Please try to separate you and your kids from her so you can clearly think about your next move. You must protect your kids.