RedBaron, Why do you have your six-year old policing his mother? The child is TELLING on his mother. How does he KNOW to tell on his mother? That is completely unfair to the child and I wish you would stop involving your children in this very sick ADULT dynamic. If you do not wish to go to AlAnon and get help for yourself, fine, but stop involving the children in this. Your son deserves to have the healthiest possible relationship with both his parents, whether you want him on your side of your problems with your spouse or not.