Originally Posted by
Learn2Live 
But you may want to investigate yourself and the role you have played in this scenario a little further. Couldn't hurt
Can you explain more please?
I never had it in my mind to be a superhero or anything like that. Just trying to do what's right. No clear path has presented itself, but I'm trying to take the one that causes the least long term damage. In this case, I think we all agree that it means to not enable her by bailing her out.
At the same time, I have to agree with Kilt on the letting her know part. I am going to leave her alone for now, but if she contacts me, I will tell her what I've been thinking. She's not a raging psychopath and is 100% coherent and logical 9 days out of 10. So I feel like this way forward is the best of both worlds.
But I am new to all this and willing to hear other viewpoints from those of you who are much more experienced.