Originally Posted by JenT1968

I have memory loss about many things, I have to write bad stuff down as I don't ever remember it, until I read it again, and then I am amazed that I have forgotten it, and amazed that I didn't leave right then. It hasn't been as positive for me as Tuffgirl suggests, it helped to keep me in a relationship that was horrible because I never evaluated the relationship as a whole, with its ongoing pattern of awful, only ever the latest incident in isolation, and everyone makes the odd mistake, and deserves a second-chance right? rinse and repeat for years.
And during the time we were together, I was about as far away froma positive thinker as it is possible to get.

Originally Posted by StarCat

I don't remember the bad (usually) either.
I did start writing things down at the end, so I wouldn't forget them (and then believe I did the wrong thing), but I try not to dig through it.

The only thing I have right now that shows me how upsetting most of the relationship was are the poems I wrote. They're all really dark, and some of them look like I was about to... Well, you can guess.

I don't remember what inspired me to write any of them, but they're there, and that's how I was feeling.
I think that's the best way for me to remember it, rather than start crying about specific incidents I'd rather just look back and say "I was really upset most of the time. I'm really happy most of the time now. I did the right thing."