Originally Posted by
InquireWithin 
Thank you for all your input.
I am going to be brief right now, but I have contacted a lawyer.
I am in so far over my head that I feel helpless, but I'm going to get help immediately.
Yay!
This means that you are not only going to save the babies, but save yourself from shame and guilt and grief, and save your wife from much shame, guilt, and grief too, because awful things that could have happened no longer are going to happen.
Naturally she will be very upset by the intervention.
But she, and your children, will all thank you in years to come.