Agreed Bookwyrm. Kilt is, as he or she said, entitled to his/her opinions, but they are coming off as passive aggressively controlling and sanctimonious in his posts. My sponsor once told me not to should on other people, not to should on myself, and to not let others should on me. Kilt is doing a lot of shoulding here.
My 2 cents. Nothing personal.
Cyranoak