Let's examine if she had tendencies back then
Jay, I am going to respond again just to point out something about your language. I know you are new to this, so let me give you some recovery language enlightenment.
"Let's" or "let us" is not the way it happens. Her recovery is not going to be a joint endeavor, so you simply can't use words like "us".
You are not going to be there when she explores her childhood traumas. That is between her therapist and her, and it is very private. And you will probably never hear about it, and you
shouldn't hear about it, because it is
her thing.
She can only make this journey by herself. You can't go there with her because you are not an alcoholic.
But that doesn't mean you can't support her. You can make your home an alcohol free zone. You can plan non-drinking activities. You can talk about recovery, talk about a program, (but make sure YOU ARE NOT HER PROGRAM)....you can ask her to go for a walk, ask her to take a kayaking class with you....be there.