Originally Posted by
sheila84 
We live in a really small town, and he knows most everyone. He's embarrassed that he'll know the counselor. Same with AA, he doesn't want to see people he knows. Unfortunately the next town with AA in almost 2 hrs away
Excuses. If he *truly* wants to recover, then he won't let anything stop him. Ask any of the former alcoholic SR members who post or lurk in our section: when they were ready, and when they'd truly had enough, nothing and no one would get in the way of their recovery, not even their own egos.
The same can be said for you. When you have hit your bottom and have come to the realization that you are not willing to accept this life as it is now, you'll get the ball rolling and leave.