JUst go and then keep on going..go to several differnt meetings..I truly don't know anyone at my meetings who doesn't think their life is so much better for being there..it's not about accomadating the alcoholic..they won't tell you to leave or stay, but will show you how to lovingly detach and set boundaries about what you are willing to live with..or not.I was bordeline suicidal when i got there.. now I'm pretty happy most of the time..I surrendered and my life got waaay better.