Thanks Cyranoak. My first impulse was to rebut by saying "I love him and want to help him." But the more I thought about it, the more I realize that he doesn't want that kind of help right now. He doesn't want to be smothered. Co-dependent is a tough label to swallow, but I do have those tendencies and I need to lean AWAY from them.
Bottom line is I know he loves me and he will tell me what he needs. He knows that I love him too.