Wow Jay, we have a lot in common. I wish I had an answer for you. Personally, I'm trying really hard to trust God. I mean he is....GOD. I can no longer trust the woman that has been my companion for 25+ years.
The thing that worries me the most is what this may do to our three kids.
I can't afford to be weak. They need me and they need her.
I have a close friend whose wife ditched him and her kids recently because she found another man that "fulfills" her. Whatever....
How sickening it is to realize that my own wife would do the same thing , not because she found the worlds most interesting lover, but just so she can be alone with the toxic crap that she sucks from a bottle that just makes her stupid and sad.
It really makes me crazy.
I hope your wife can get fixed. I'm kinda new here too, still not sure what to do, but clearly there are plenty of folks that can share their experiences and encouragement.
Maybe we can learn from each other?
Good Luck