Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
Maybe we need to think about WHY we would rather they not go out (if that's the case) and word our response accordingly. If we had counted on their being home to do something with us, we could say we'd rather they didn't, because xxx.
Dealing with an alcoholic is like walking through a mine field, isn't it?
I would have to be careful with this approach, because I could manufacture a million reasons why I really, really counted on him to be home, which in reality would just be a way for me to control and manipulate him into not going.
A mine field is a good analogy!!