Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
It's tricky, because with a non-alcoholic partner, it would be considerate for them to ask us if we minded if they made plans.
This is how my husband justified asking for permission: he was trying to be "respectful" in asking me. However, he NEVER asked my permission for anything other than going out to drink, and he knew how I felt about his drinking, so it was clearly manipulation in my sitution.