Coffeelover, I've always paid attention to your posts. I feel a familiarity with your stories. This one seems new, however. I am really sorry your AH put you and your family through this, while away from home even.
The only advice I have are the words that keep playing in my head. "Do what's right." You may not exactly know what that is but it sure helps to keep me going in the right direction.
I wish you peace and perserverance.