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Old 02-06-2011, 11:12 PM
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ToBeSerene
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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Texas
Posts: 71
@ ZRX - thanks for sharing your "party line" as I've not heard it and needed to hear it.
I too have been married for 22 years and am looking at divorce this year. Where did the 22 years go.

@ CoffeeDrinker: I'm SO SORRY that this happened to you - what a nightmare it must have been for you and your kids. Alanon and friendships formed through alanon have been my saving grace. I started pulling away after he relapsed 1.5 yrs after treatment. It's a sick cycle we have right now ... I gain confidence (spend time with friends) and he drinks. I stay home (and am miserable on the inside) he doesn't drink. My "old" self would have assumed it's becuase of me but not the new me.

You will find your answer with time - processing it in my mind and heart was the toughest for me - I wanted a solution now! You will get there and it will be your time.

Be safe and be gentle with yourself. You obviously already love your kiddos

I found the most peace when I really learned how to detach with love ...

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