Hi, Sherry!
Good for you for reaching out to us!
#1 start taking care of you and stop worrying over him. How?
* Alanon meetings - they are free!
Welcome to Al-Anon and Alateen
* Try reading Melody Beattie's Codependent No More (I found it very helpful)
* Consider starting to think about
a. what you want in a relationship
b. what you need in a relationship
c. if you don't have them, how are you going to get them or how long are you willing to wait and see if you get them
d. what are your deal breakers that you will not put up with.
Your husband is in a fragile time and it is great he is working on recovery. This is a great opportunity to put yourself in recovery, too. How can you grow and change and take better care of yourself in this time?
Stick around and read the stickies at the top of the forum.
Hugs,
peace