Mine kept threatening to leave, left a few times... Then I asked him to go.
I am still asking him to go.
He pretends we are a family unit when it serves him, then I hardline him and he says, see.. This is why I'm leaving.
I get stuck and go into denial, tho, too. I have less resolve right now than you.
When he warms up, acts right, admits he is wrong, I still ocassionally melt into the fantasy w him.