When my XABF was in rehab, I told him that everything was backwards, I needed space, and if he wanted to continue things we'd have to start over from the VERY beginning, small dates, him live at his mothers instead of with me, no staying over the weekends, etc, just to take things slow.
So he proposed to me when I went down during weekend visiting hours.
They hear, and do the opposite, to try and keep you hooked in.