Many hugs to you Skigurl.
SR is great for support and understanding. I would also highly recommend Alanon if you've not tried it already. The people at our group here are very welcoming and loving and it is so nice to be in a group of people who have all been through what you have been through.
I hope your husband's recovery is successful, I often hoped my AH would be caught so he could hit bottom before he loses everything.