I can just say in my case..my daughter grew up adored,beloved, in a home with a mom and dad who catered to her every need (part of the problem right there) We are middle class and have a very good relationship..I was actually the educator for the Women's Shelter here and put together our teen dating violence program..so I don't think she got that part from us..she was always a thrillseeker in every way..she loved that outlaw romantic sh*% for sure..she loved to feel "protected" by being with violent people.. she thought no one would mess w/ her if she was w/ a bada%%..don't think she thought he would wind up controlling and beating her..