Originally Posted by
duqld1717 
Did everyone know from Day 1 that their partner or ex partner was an alcoholic?
No way...although in the early days we hung out at the bar! LOL! But everyone did in college (it felt like).
He drank. I saw that, but he didn't overdrink. I saw him visibly drunk maybe 2x in all the time I knew him.
But as the relationship progressed, I denied the issues I saw.
I came across hidden bottles, he gave me a BS excuse and I bought it.
I came across empties in his car, he gave me a BS excuse, I bought it.
He lied about smoking, I caught him, he cried and promised to change and I accepted that (felt sorry for him, even and felt closer because of it).
I've learned alot about myself in this process...and am still learning!