Chelle, my mother has been married to my AF for over 50 years. He has been drinking basically non-stop for over 20 years. He does nothing but drink and smoke in shifts separated by passing out for a couple hours. My mother tells me that the sound of the beer can opening at 3, 4 in the morning wakes her up. This sound sends her heart racing and her blood pressure (and anger) soars. It is no way to live.
You have to follow your OWN values, not anyone else's, no matter how well-meaning their telling you what to do is.