I'm not sure if I'm safe to respond here or not. I hate being ignored. It makes me feel really stupid and like I'm nobody. I didn't have a problem with it before XAH; I was able to say "whatever" and walk away. XAH, however, made ignoring me an art. I used to wish he'd say anything to me while he was in one of those moods. Be careful what you wish for, eh?
I can't offer any advice on detaching from it. Just wanted to commiserate with the feeling that you're darned if you do and darned if you don't. I like Lexie's line, though.