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02-04-2011, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by stella27

lol. Yes, I am quoting myself.

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I just realized that I conformed by giving him the fight that he was always looking for. I let him pick fights with me and I always fell for it. He would request or demand things that no one in his right mind would - just to be in a power struggle and set me up as the bad-guy authority figure, and I always fell for it. For 15 years. ... I hate that I allowed myself to become aggressive and defensive in response to his manipulations.

What an eye-opening discussion!

Me too. One of my EXes was VERY volatile, angry, always trying to fight. I remember feeling like I was a cornered, scared animal and it got to the point where I would physically attack in response to the constant verbal attacks. It was horrible. Sick. Really.