I left my rabf after living together for 4 months because he was drinking and sneaking and lying after promising to quit if I moved in. Boy was I naive!
Once I realized, rather admitted to myself that he had no intention of getting sober, and seeking recovery, I left. The most painful thing I have ever experienced.
One year later, he is clean and sober and sincerely working on his recovery. I have found that I love living alone (first time in my life), and through SR and Al Anon, I have found an inner peace that I have never known before.
I don't believe you can ever go wrong by walking away from an active alcoholic.
Good for you for not running to bail him out. Inspiring
