Reading this thread and Tam's response really is helping me as well. I am not leaving my relationship but I have yet to find a meeting which was welcoming or supportive. Members seemed to be going through the motions instead of really connecting with others so I was sorta disappointed. And then I read on here over and over 'go to Al-anon!'.
I feel very isolated and Al-anon actually made me feel worse hearing all those stories of pain from a parent or ACoA. I'm just some chick in love with some guy in recovery. I felt like my story wasn't nearly as 'important' nor did I get any support.
I'd also love to attend a support group. I am in therapy but I get the same response: sort of this look on my therapists face actually when I talk about the RABF. It is almost like she has no direct experience working with anyone who is in recovery (she is young). My friends are actually pretty cool about it but that is because they know the RABF.
Just know that you really aren't alone and wish you all lived in my town!
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Originally Posted by
tam 
atalose, I understand what your going through. I stopped going to meetings because I felt there werent any connections with me since my AH and I have split. dont get me wrong, the meetings helped me tremendously in the beginning.but most of the people were either living with their spouses (who were sober) or there were parents,which I feel for them all but it just seemed different for me although I know its not easy for them either.
I didnt seem to click in, there were no people on the call lists who fit my situation. nor did anyone step up and connect with me as well.
.....I would love to find or start a group for people who's significant other is an addict..I think it would really be helpful as I do remember some newbies in our situation at the meetings who never came back, they would walk up to me and thank me for sharing my story but never came back and I often wished they had.
I feel lost too, but leaning on my HP to direct me and give me strength and courage to get through this.
hang in there atalose..