I think you can insist that she not speak to you disrespectfully. In my experience, that is likely to be followed by a dramatic eyeroll, stomping off to another room, and slamming the door.
Whatever.
My bet is that it's just the usual 17-year-old surliness. I was Miss Goody-Two-Shoes most of my childhood, but my mom told me (when I was in my late 20s) that if she could have shipped me off somewhere JUST for the year I was 17, she would have jumped at the chance.