Originally Posted by
hydrogirl 
Hello littleking!!!
First: Congratulations on your sober time!!!!!!
What a fantastic accomplishment!!
On this side of the equation, we learn what we like to call the 3 C's
You did not
cause his addiction.
You cannot
control is addiction.
You cannot
cure him.
He will have to truly want to change his life for himself and no amount of begging, pleading, arguing, yelling, bargaining, blackmailing will work......
I hope that you will stick around SR, read around the threads for a bit, and try to make a plan for yourself, your continued recovery, and what sort of behavior you are willing (or more importantly NOT willing) to accept around you.
Hugs and welcome,
HG
Thank you hydro, i certainly am not willing to accept this current behavior and that was my main point in posting..i just don't understand it..he says he is still sober, but now he has withdrawn into a man i don't recognize anymore, i dont know if this is just a phase following his relapse or worse is he drinking again and hiding it from me...i took a moment to look over similar threads, but their significant others were not in recovery yet..