His bottom line is this. He feels that if I "treat him the way that I INSIST that he treats me, then all of our problems will be solved" "its an easy fix, he is willing to discuss it with me etc etc. He says the ball is in my court.
Yes, this is his way of pointing his finger at (blaming) you. You can choose to believe it or not.
My impression is that he does not want to be in our children's lives if we are not a couple. If he can't have me, then he doesn't want them.
This is called Emotional Blackmail. Again, you can choose to fall for it or not.
(((hugs))) He is an a$$hole. I would file for child support.