I agree with you entirely. Also, there seems to be an undertone of inevitability regarding relapse. Was there any talk about what your wife should do
prior to actually relapsing? And how you can support her in those early stages? Here's a post that might help her identify those stages and where you might be able to assist
if she asks for help
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...s-relapse.html
Your recovery is shining.