Men don't have the franchise on this type of behavior, and alcoholics don't either. Plenty of this particular characteristic to go around.
The real problem for me is I'm not attracted to normal women, so every woman I experience intimately I experience as ******* crazy. It's me, not them, and I don't blame women as a gender at all. How cliche, but how true for me.
Take care,
Cyranoak
Originally Posted by
Bolina 
Whilst I agree that many men blame their ex partners for their situation, I don't think this is solely a male preserve. You will read plenty of the same complaints if you spend a few months on this forum and this section is mainly frequented by women. I really don't think that it is an alcohol issue either. It is simply a symptom of someone who refuses to engage in any self-awareness and realise that the common denominator is
them and their lousy picker/lack of healthy relationship skills. Of course, people with addictions have a vested interest in having a ready source of blame for their discomfort and therefore an excuse to drink/drug/gamble, but anyone who refuses to take responsibility for their own life and choices has a vested interest in distorting the truth. In fact, we all do it to a certain extent because there is very litle reality, only perception. That's not to say that many male alcoholics are not misogynists, but that's equally not a function of alcohol intake.
I do entirely understand the scenario that you are painting and that attitude is my No 1 Red Flag. Did you read these two stickies?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...special-i.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...pecial-ii.html
They give a bit of insight into what I think you are talking about.