I blamed my dad and all men for all my issues, depression and bad times!
Its difficult to realize who the common denominator is. Huge blow to the ego! but then that is where the power can be felt again (or in my case: for the first time!) because then you are not doomed forever, you actually have options...
And men who blame women (or women that blame men) or anyone who is blaming anyone else is someone I no longer want in my life....... and to think I was someone like that not long ago...
oh well. Victim no more
Now the people I welcome in my life are the ones that treat EVERYONE the same way and with the same level of respect... that is the bare minimum now... *****!! the bar has been raised..
I stopped talking to a girlfriend because she treated a waiter like $$#$$/# ... yup.. THAT is a "friendship deal breaker" for me...
XABF was also full of lies but I no longer care, after knowing what alcohol does to the brain and the kidney, he is very far away from anything close to reality. I am glad I see that now.