3Cs. You did not cause this, you cannot control this, you cannot cure this.
Ok, I'm gonna say it.. again.. because I care about you. The Drs did NOT straddle your AW wife and force these pills down her throat (same with the alcohol). She procured, she took, she got the effects. She owns this. Her responsibility. Her options. Her choice.
No matter what life throws at us, whatever hardships we have to endure, whatever third parties say/do/think.. WE have a choice. Hers was to do pills/alcohol. Her life, her decision.
Take care of your babies.. and you.
Tx