Hi mybump.. welcome to SR
Your post resonated with me. I was clearing out my hotmail account today and came across early emails from my ex. Reading them back.. years later, time flies.. I saw a very sweet, endearing, loving man. I had to smile, in a peverse way, because that very man became emotionally then physically abusive. Who knew.. certainly not me!
Now, with the benefit of experience and hindsight, I can see the hook that was put in me.
My disquiet.. I ignored. It was my little voice screaming RED FLAG, that I ignored.
Keep reading, posting, getting the opinions and experience of all the awesome people here. I wish I'd done it sooner than I did.
You're not alone.
Tx