I've personally been researching lawyers that specialize in fighting for men. It's sexist, sure, but I need someone who works only on finding the best outcome for children and their fathers.
Having just witnessed my BF go through this, and having tried to find him SOMEONE who could or would help him, I'd say you're pretty smart for doing this. Sexist? Well, it's a sexist system, no two ways about it. In this country, fathers have NO RIGHTS and the cards are stacked against them. That is why I am so glad to see so many men on this website. Because as more and more men stand up and speak out to provide testimony that THEY are primary caregivers too, that they are married to abusive, alcoholic, and otherwise dysfunctional WOMEN, this society will slowly begin to see the TRUTH and we will begin to see gradual change in Family Law. At least that is my hope. So, thank you all you men for standing up and having the courage to speak out against what you are faced with every day.