Originally Posted by
Buffalo66 
PS;
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you said " I should have thrown her out years ago, so I am responsible for the now..."
BINGO. And you can do that now. Forgive yourself. Your only crime was trusting and loving a sick person. NOw move the heck on. SHe will either get well, or ahe will fall further.
Do they teach you in training about the drowning man?
If a man is drowning, and he is in shock, if he is delerious and fighting you, and you are in rough water...Are you to struggle to save that man until he takes you down?
Is there a point in that training where they say, You should let go of a shocked, drowning man, who is resisiting rescue if he is causing you to go down as well?...
At some point you can only help her, you, and you children if you can still swim.
Well put. Very well put.
I think I am going to stick to my guns on this one, if she screws up, skips meetings, drinks, whatnot, she is out. I just don't know how to legally kick her out. Not sure that I can in SC. The south is weird about stuff like that. I know in VA, the man has to leave, but I still have to pay for her stuff. Our country is so jacked up with regards to that sort of thing. It is my money, I make it, not her, yet somehow I know she will end up with a huge chunk of it. I make too much money for her to end up paying me child support, with some bleeding heart judge, I will have the kids, and have to pay HER alimony.