OMG! I was getting more and more horrorfied as I was reading your post!
Alcoholism is one thing but what you are talking about is a whole other ball of wax!
My heart goes out to you.... What an absolute tragedy that you had the misfortune to meet this vile man who would stop at nothing to abuse you and your precious child physically and sexually.
Even if this man never picked up another drink again, I doubt that other side of him would ever change - the drink just fuelled those urges that was in him.
I DO hope you get to show that tape one day to the proper authorities - this man belongs in jail and I hope to god he stays there so he can never hurt another woman again!
This has brought me to tears for you
But you are out of it now!!! You protected yourself and your daughter and you went to a very dark place and admitted something that was probably gnawing at you for a loooong time. Thats not easy. I admire you so much! Keep being strong!!