Originally Posted by
Tuffgirl 
I still get hooked into over-analyzing HIS stuff. I need to work on that (in my program, yes I am working one!).
Boy if I could have been PAID for analyzing HIS stuff I’d be a very very rich woman today!!
I also was working my program in al-anon but for a long time based MY recovery on HIS recovery. Sure I was stepping back, I was no longer counting pills, searching for pills, etc. But I was very much analyzing every thing he did or said. Guess that I was still very un-trusting in many ways looking for my own “pink-cloud” that he/we were going to be alright.
Funny thing was, he had gotten so used to my “crazies” that when I actually did step back, hands off the addict……..he saw that as I didn’t care!!! And that’s when I knew I was truly WORKING MY OWN PROGRAM!!!!