"Without such spiritual help, living with an alcoholic is too much for most of us. Our thinking becomes distorted by trying to force solutions, and we become irritable and unreasonable without knowing it."--Al Anon Welcome
Being in a relationship with an alcoholic can be difficult, yet many of us find ourselves in that situation and choose not to leave.
Just because the alcoholic isn't drinking, doesn't mean that they aren't still an alcoholic! I truly believe that just being around alcoholics can result in us becoming "irritable and unreasonable without knowing it."
The only person who can help you...is you. I really would suggest attending a few Al-Anon meetings. You'll find people there who understand what you're experiencing and you'll find tools and support that will help you find balance and peace, whether the alcoholic in your life is drinking or not. It really does work!