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Old 01-27-2011, 08:32 PM
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brokenheartfool
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The last thing I would do is imagine I was going to change somebody after I married them.
Whatever the situation is now, imagine it amplified. That is probably the closest to the truth that you can predict.
How will you feel if you feel exactly as you do now, but amplified by five or ten years with him?
If there are red flags before you marry him, you need to fix them or separate, BEFORE you marry him!
If fixing him involves trying to change him in a big way, not simply a conversation that resolves the issue, then forgetaboutit!

It is a red flag to not feel good about yourself in a relationship. It is a red flag if you feel that you are not being heard. It is a red flag if you try to address issues and can't seem to resolve them.
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