My heart breaks for you, and I am scared for myself at the same time. I am separated but not wanting to divorce my newly RAH. However, in taking this road I know I must accept that relapse is part of my future. With relapse comes the typical horrid behaviors everyone describes on this forum - and they all sound the same, amazingly! Ugh - I don't want ANYMORE of that!
Reading Eightball's post gives me some hope and I hope it does for you, as well. Because your husband does have the skills to maintain for over 8 years! Wow! That's awesome! Try to focus on that, take care of yourself, and pray for him to come to his senses again.
The more I read about alcoholism, the more I come to the conclusion that these folks who are in recovery are heroes in their own quiet ways. It is one tough monkey to get off your back.
Hang in there! You are not alone.