Oh ButtonDaisy, there is so much I want to tell you. So many things I want to say about him. And about you. And what is happening to you. But I know that it is probably too much all at once. Can I ask you one thing? All that love you give him, All the caring and caretaking and hugging and accomodating HIM, all the energy and resources you expend on HIM, can you see that all of that is really meant for YOU? That you are giving to someone else, someone who cannot give back, what you are meant to give yourself?
I am so sorry you are in this situation. I want to come there and get you away from him. Because I know this man, many times over. And I know what he has done, what he is doing, and what he will do. Please go to AlAnon. And please keep reading and posting here.