Originally Posted by atalose

What things do you want to discuss that would clear the air, that you havne't already discussed?

What is your expectation in having such a talk today that you already don't know the answers to?

Are you thinking of announcing that you are moving away?

Looking back now, I clearly see myself in that bargaining stage.....announcing to him I would be leaving unless he did X,Y,Z, I'd often state "you've left me no choice but to_______ and those manipulations tactis worked in the short term but never in the long haul. Everything I did or said was to hold onto him and the relationship, it never was about me "recovering" for me it was always about HIM and the RELATIONSHIP.

Had I had the oportunity to move away and start a new life I would have jumped for that oportunity. But I also know my new life would have to include ME getting healthy and making healthier choices for my life moving forward.