Originally Posted by
twinkle1987 
Do i go and never look back? Or keep in touch with the ex and meet up to discuss things and clear the air after time apart?
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What things do you want to discuss that would clear the air, that you havne't already discussed?
What is your expectation in having such a talk today that you already don't know the answers to?
Are you thinking of announcing that you are moving away?
Looking back now, I clearly see myself in that bargaining stage.....announcing to him I would be leaving unless he did X,Y,Z, I'd often state "you've left me no choice but to_______ and those manipulations tactis worked in the short term but never in the long haul. Everything I did or said was to hold onto him and the relationship, it never was about me "recovering" for me it was always about HIM and the RELATIONSHIP.
Had I had the oportunity to move away and start a new life I would have jumped for that oportunity. But I also know my new life would have to include ME getting healthy and making healthier choices for my life moving forward.