I agree with bookwrm...I too have been isolated by an exAH. My exADFH (defacto) tried this controlling tactic too. I lost a lot of my life, especially with exAH, not even being 'allowed' to attend my sister's wedding. And, bookwrm is right, he's a grown man, he doesn't need babysitting.
Maybe he can spend some of his time away from you in the AA fellowship if recovey is what he's truly seeking.